A good friend of mine is getting married this December. Instead of being a happy and excited groom to be, he's been complaining to me about his fiancée and telling me that he regrets 'it'. And that he can't stand her mum, her step brother, and her - yes, HER. Sigh. I feel sorry for myself, my poor ears that is.
Incidentally he does not want her to move to KL where he is based. And neither does he want kids. Then excuse me, why bother to get married in the first place when the notion of facing your wife daily is irksome and you don't want kids? *slaps forehead*
If you ask me, I don't understand why he is back with his fiancée (they broke up for a few years) in the first place. There is a reason why an ex is an ex in the first place right???
He had lamented a few years back about how he was 'already 30 and still unmarried'. So, I presume his biological clock probably contributed to his current 'regret'. Which leads to the question of... why not call off the wedding?? Isn't it easier to do this now than to really regret after signing on the dotted line?
I think it's rather sad that people get married or 'settle', simply because of reasons like getting old, partner is rich, my parents said we should get married (?!), my partner's mum passed away thus we should get married within 100 days (even if we are not ready (?!)), i wanna move out of my parents' place, I am going to be posted overseas and i wanna bring my gf along (she will be entitled to an allowance from the employer if married) etc. Yes, all of the above were what happened to my friends; and some of them are now divorced/ annulled marriage/ cheating/ undergoing counseling.
Marriage is this society seems baffling, or at best, as good as it lasts to me. We claim that free love is the way to go. But divorce statistics show otherwise. Perhaps arranged marriages aren't so bad after all? Back then, a couple only went out on a few supervised dates before getting married. And those marriages lasted, based on commitment and (presumably) feelings that formed over time.
I hope things will work out for my friend eventually. Life is too short and we really should just be happy.
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